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Questions Change Your Life - Here’s a Few Life-Changing Questions

Life-Changing Questions

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One question changed my life: Can I live like this for the next 60 years?

This question came to me after I heard the quote below at a live event in Melbourne.

The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the quality of the questions you are asking yourself ― Tony Robbins

My entire world turned upside down. It set me on a new path. My life would never be the same again. I’d learn to question everything. I’d learn to ask better questions rather than rely on excuses that only ever held me back.

Here are a few life-changing questions to help you have your own breakthrough.

Why not me?

It’s easy to see others doing what you would like to do and think it’s impossible. A question that helped me write online is “Why not me?”

If they can do it, why can’t you? What would it take? What sort of person would you have to be? What would your day look like?

The truth is any of us can achieve the same goals as our idols. They’re not immortal or special. They’re just like you. Have coffee with them or meet them backstage after an event and you’ll see what I mean.

We’re all more normal than we’d like to accept.

So if they can do it, why not you? You can do it … if you start somewhere.

What areas of my life suck?

When I asked this question it came down to one thing: mental illness.

“I don’t want to feel like this anymore” was the self-talk. Everything sucked. I’d go to work and get my ass kicked by my boss and my damn brain. Those back-to-back double beatings hurt after so many years. I got clear on what sucked and what had to change.

The key when you write these lists is to capture everything. Don’t judge each area of “suck.” Just write it all down and edit later. Your mind will try to cover up its tracks. Don’t let it.

Once you know what sucks it’s a lot easier to make changes.

What’s one goal you can progress by 1% today?

Change-your-life moments are normally connected to big goals.

The problem with these enormous goals is they appear in our heads as Mt Everests. And who the heck wants to climb Mt Everest on a Saturday morning? Not me.

A few months ago I decided to write another book. It felt overwhelming. I procrastinated on it. One morning I changed my approach. I set myself the task of progressing the book goal by 1% each day. Here’s what it looked like:

  • Day 1: Write book title
  • Day 2: Write subtitle
  • Day 3: Copy headlines from my articles and make them chapter titles
  • Day 4: Choose two colors for the front cover
  • Day 5: Choose an illustrator for the book cover
  • Day 6: Write the first sentence of the book
  • Day 7: Finish the intro
  • Day 8: Write Chapter 1
  • Day 9-14: Write one chapter a day
  • Day 15: Write conclusion
  • Day 16: Format book
  • Day 17: Get an editor on Fiverr to edit it
  • Day 18: Get a landing page
  • Day 19: Release book via email
  • Day 20: Publish book on my blog

See the difference?

1% progress markers are so stupidly simple to execute, you can’t screw it up.

What do you want your life to look like in 5 years?

Many of us don’t believe our lives will look the way they do now in a few years. It’s a common belief.

The challenge is we can fall for lottery thinking. We can hope things will change and leave it up to chance. That form of laziness can cause devastation when you do finally arrive 5 years into the future.

Don’t disappoint your future self.

Who do you want to become? What are your big goals? What would make you proud of yourself in 5 years? Call it a vision board if you will. Or call it getting sh*t done if you’re more like me.

Just don’t wait for things to happen and waste the precious years of your life.

The key is to reverse engineer your life.

Plan your life backwards. Who has done what you want to do already? Do their course if they have one. Buy their book. Follow them on Twitter. Be a detective. Analyze their life.

Take inspiration from those you seek to become. Then you’ll become your own version of their example.

What stories could I share to be more vulnerable?

Stories are magnets for opportunities.

I shared my recent story of tragedy with a guy I met on Twitter. He’s one of the biggest Youtubers on the planet. I didn’t ask for help. I just told him what happened, tears and all (zero sympathy requested).

He decided to intervene and be extremely useful. The help he gave didn’t lead anywhere. Yet showing care is massively underrated. It forms unlikely bonds. Now we’re talking about other ideas. Had I have tried to look like some 6-figure hero that can do no wrong, I doubt we would have ever met or hit it off.

The same happened with James Altucher. I’ve learned he reads my work and follows me. Apparently, he likes that I’m bold enough to be vulnerable. What he doesn’t know is, I learned the subtle art from him.

James taught me to stop living some fake-ass life built on the back of bullsh*t, to impress people who would gladly leave me to drown in front of their eyes if I fell into shark-infested waters.

Share your stories, unfiltered.

What fears are holding me back?

Fear is a son of a b*tch.

I’ve lived in fear most of my life. Then I discovered the power of fear lists. I entered the psychologist’s office for the first time all those years ago with a print out.

“These are all my fears Doc. I tackled the elevator fear yesterday. Next week I go on a plane to tackle that fear. One by one.”

In the closing minutes of my final appointment he said, “I have no doubt you will beat mental illness. You’re one of the smartest people that I’ve ever met. That idea to create a fear list is incredible. Now all you have to do is follow through. I don’t think you’ll need me anymore.”

Now let’s make sure I don’t get ahead of myself. I’m not that smart. But this question really can change your life if you let it. It did for me. Why not you?

Write a fear list. Get clear.

Is this the work I love or am I settling for second best?

I settled for second best for too long.

A monthly paycheck made me feel safe so I warmed the seat to get it, like a rabbit motivated by a carrot stick.

I didn’t love the work though. It made my soul rot. All that fakery became too much. I realized I was settling for second best. So I chose myself and quit.

You can fail at what you don’t want, so you may as well take a chance on doing what you love — Jim Carrey

Who can I inspire?

There are so many Debbie Downers.

Sit back. Eat some popcorn. Watch the sh*t show on Twitter unfold.

The fact is, inspiring others comes with bigger rewards than dishing out demotivation to a bunch of low-lifes.

All of us have the power to inspire. We can take our skills and experiences and make them useful for others. You can choose a target group of people and then go to work.

Watch what happens.

Watch the opportunities it presents. Watch how the people you inspire become part of your DNA. Most importantly, watch how inspiring others adds enormous meaning to your life.

Is everyone in my inner circle making me a better person?

A few years ago I cut off my childhood best friend. This final question is the one that made me do it.

They were bad for me. When life punched me in the face they’d say “let’s get smashed at the pub.” When we’d go out on the weekends, we’d always end up back at some rich snob’s place.

I’d sit on the couch. They’d smoke crack.

They made me feel like crap. I’ve never done drugs, after a bad experience at 16-years-old with a joint that nearly ruined my life. Oh, and my friend in high school that got high and jumped into a river with a kayak during a storm and drowned, right before his debut as a marathon runner at the Olympics.

It’s a hard question to ask. Sometimes you’ve got to let people go until they heal. And if they refuse to heal, then you can’t let them continue to drag you down forever and make you do dumb stuff.

Final Thought

Questions change our lives. They shape our future. They create paradigm shifts. They break patterns. They abolish toxic beliefs. They remove and add people to your life.

Ask better questions to get better answers. That’s how you transform your life.


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My Shameless New Life Rules for 2022

Borrow a few killer ideas for yourself.

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The last two years have been some of the toughest in history.

The global health crisis is far from over. What comes next is the financial fallouts from all of the devastation — that’s what is missed.

With that backdrop in mind, it pays to set rules for the new year. I’m changing things up a lot. Perhaps you can borrow one of these ideas.

Have teenage fun

I’m way too freaking serious. I write like I’m Superman saving the world, and I know it. Business is fine. Writing is fine. Social media is fine.

When you become too driven, though, you lose the plot.

In 2022 I’m going back to my teenage years. I’ve booked tickets to an electronic dance music festival called “Ultra.” I want to revisit my musical roots. I want to teleport back to behind the turntables. I want to experience the euphoria of a beat drop on a sound system that can go louder than a Jumbo Jet (I’ll be wearing earplugs of course).

The in-laws are on their way over too. They can’t speak English. They’ve both had severe health problems lately. I want to show them a good time without alcohol. This will be the first time they see their daughter married to a strange Australian man from the outback.

Life is too short to be serious. Your business, career, and investments could get wiped out tomorrow. Then what do you have to show for yourself? Nothing.

Through change comes discomfort. Through discomfort comes new forms of growth.

Write on Substack

Writing isn’t going away for me. In 2022 I plan to do more on Substack.

They have a cool podcast feature. The readers are completely different, and they’re happy to pay individual writers directly for content. There’s a lot of opportunities yet to be explored. Their Web 3.0 strategy is interesting too.

Write anywhere you like, to experience a new form of self-expression. It leads to a type of freedom I can’t describe. You must experience it.

Explore new countries

Two years stuck in Australia has been a welcome change. But I miss travel.

I want to go and visit new cultures so I’m less susceptible to the quiet racism that exists in all pockets of society.

It would be fun to do a trip to a new country and take zero photos. What if you could only remember the places you’ve been with your memory? That’s a question I’ve been asking myself.

Photography and posing for dumb photos is such a distraction — not to mention the not-so-smart phone that shifts our focus from the new place we’re visiting, to a Silicon Valley company’s business model.

Our minds need to be immersed in new cultures so we can focus more on the fact we’re humans, and less on the fact we’re members of separate races.

Race divides. Humanity includes. Travel reveals the difference.

Buy more Ethereum

My research suggests 2022 will be the year for Ethereum. Version 2.0 of the second-largest blockchain in the world will be released in approximately March. It’s an exciting time.

I intend on investing more of my money in the asset over time, as the network continues to grow faster than the internet did in the 90s and early 2000s.

2022 is the year to rethink blockchain technology and the potential it can unlock. The proof of concept phase is over. It’s now mainstream. Research it.

Be slightly more vulnerable

There’s a lot of BS online. Vulnerability is the differentiator.

The problem is I suck at it.

Whenever I say what I really think or feel, it scares the pants off me.

Admitting I stuffed up or got something wrong takes every ounce of my energy. Storytellers like James Altucher can do it at the drop of a hat. Us mortals can’t. I’ve read a lot on the subject and practice can help.

Despite the butterflies you get in your stomach, practice being more vulnerable in 2022. See where it takes you.

Spend more time with my partner

2022 is my first official year as a married man. I have no idea what sort of husband I will be. I’ve read a bunch of books on the topic, such as The Five Love Languages, to try and prepare for it.

Lately, I haven’t spent enough time with my partner.

I’ve spent too much time in front of a computer while she waits for me to come out of my bat cave. Not in 2022. One thing we’re going to do more of is hikes. She loves them more than gelato.

I often shut the idea of hikes down because I’m terrified of snakes. If you hike in Australia during the summer, you’re likely to stumble across these slithering bloodsuckers. They look scarier than a devil in a clown suit. Some of these silent killers can shed their skin and leave it on the walking trail so you feel their presence.

Despite my fear, no friends of mine have ever been harmed. I suspect my fear is over-compensating for the near-death experience I had with a tiger snake.

Fear kept us locked away in our homes (rightfully) for far too long. It’s time to consider that our fear levels may be artificially heightened.

Do stuff that scares you again in 2022.

Quietly inspire people

There’s been far too much negativity over the last two years. The headlines have been dreadful. Online writers have used CNN tactics to scare the crap out of readers to get clicks.

Inspiration doesn’t have to be woo-woo or self-help-y. It can simply be trying to see the world slightly better than it is and finding ways to teach, inspire, entertain, or make exhausted humans laugh again.

My aim in 2022 is to tone it down. There are times where I feel I’m too loud.

Quiet inspiration is better than loud egos that aim to show off. Sometimes I fall into that category as much as I try not to.

What can you do in 2022 to collectively lift our spirits up again and make us believe in hope? Do that. Make it a rule.


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“I Don’t Have Time” Is an Excuse That Ruins Many Lives

There's a simpler alternative that will make life decisions effortless.

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The phrase “I don’t have time” nearly destroyed my life.

In my early 20s I was a DJ, music producer, and startup founder. Zero focus. Spray and pray. My whole life involved working to the bone. The daily to-do list was full of as many tasks as possible.

If you asked what my life goals were, I couldn’t tell you. “Do everything then die?” Whenever someone wanted me for a few minutes I never had time.

I lived a zero-minutes-free kind of life. People later told me I was rude. Ex-girlfriends explained a lack of attention as the primary reason for our inevitable breakups.

If you say “I don’t have time” it has a powerful meaning you must understand.

“I don’t have time” equals “this is not a priority”

This week I spoke to a writer. They wanted to do a course of mine. The phrase slipped out in a direct message.

I said, “Is writing a priority?”

“Yes it’s what I’ve wanted to do my entire life.”

For years they sat at home dreaming about writing. They never did it. They let their calendar fill up with useless junk. The problem is they had their priorities wrong. You don’t organize your schedule based on tasks. No.

You organize your schedule, which leads to the life you want, based on your priorities. I’m not immune from this lack of time disease, so I’ve reverse-engineered the process.

My biggest priorities go into my calendar first. All the small, unimportant stuff gets scheduled afterwards.

Be honest with yourself for once. Instead of “I don’t have time” say “it’s not a priority” or “this isn’t one of my goals.”

How you allocate time determines your real goals — not your fake goals that make you feel good but will never happen.

“I don’t have time” can mean “I’m not ready”

If you continue to ‘wait until you’re ready’ you’ll be waiting for the rest of your life — Aaron Will

Fear creeps in when we’re about to make a decision that shapes our life in an important way. We’re never ready to take action, especially if it’s a brand new goal and we have no freaking idea.

The time is now.

If you have a goal then there’s no point waiting until tomorrow. You could be dead then. A car could crash into your house and kill you. Or a grizzly bear could eat you for a morning snack.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Be prepared to start with zero knowledge. Be prepared to back yourself. Be prepared to give it a go and dare to see what you can actually do. Otherwise, your talents remain idle and your potential has a limiter on it. If left for long enough, a lack of giving it a go will destroy your motivation levels.

When do we ever have time?

The internet destroyed our time.

Apps are designed to make their business model our priority. We all have a phone, let’s not pretend we don’t. And, yes, we try to use aeroplane mode, but even The Dalai Lama can’t resist a red notification from Twitter.

Your daily time allocation can easily be filled. If you don’t fill it then someone will do it for you — boss, kids, partner, friends, family.

Saying you don’t have time is a lazy excuse.

Time runs out. It’s the one resource we can never get back. You’ve gotta be more serious about how you talk about the time you have left.

For the record, I don’t know a man or woman who says they have time. If you’re going to lie to yourself then you’ve got to be better than that.

It’s a sign of bad time management

You should know your goals. Goals act as a filter. Therefore, if you know your goals then there are two answers:

  1. I have time because this is a goal.
  2. I don’t have time because this isn’t a goal.

Saying you don’t have time is saying you don’t have goals. It’s useful to admit that if it’s the case. At least it’s a starting point to begin to create goals.

Last year I started changing how I said no. An ask like “can you be on a podcast?” went from “I don’t have time” to “podcasts are not a priority for me so, no thank you.”

Saying no based on your goals is far easier than saying no based on an empty excuse any person trained in persuasion can see through.

Build your dream or build someone else’s dream

I discovered that people who don’t have time often let their bosses at work overrun their schedules. They do have some time but their boss makes sure they’ve got enough work to fill up their schedule and have it bleed into their before and after hours freedom.

You can build your boss’s dream and keep saying no, or you can build your dream and say no to your boss often than you do.

The choice is yours.

But when someone else owns your dream, they can destroy it in a split second and there’s nothing you can do. So if that happens, then you don’t get to complain.

The simple way to reinvent your time

You’re not going to wake up tomorrow and suddenly be better with time. That’s a p*rn fantasy.

What worked for me was to identify my life goals and then turn them into 15-minute habits.

You have time to do anything for 15 minutes. When you start with a tiny step like this, it’s easier to get started and unlock momentum. Once you have momentum it will start to change your mind about your priorities.

You’ll become more disciplined at controlling your schedule because what you’ll miss out on if you don’t is now visible, and too precious to let go of.

Stop saying you don’t have time. It’s stupid.

Reinvent your schedule, one 15-minute habit at a time.


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Nine Micro Life Hacks I Found on Reddit (That Are Surprisingly Useful)

Reddit Life Pro Tips

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A lot of self-improvement is grandiose.

That’s why we dismiss the “5 Ways to be Happy” nonsense and click the next article. I discovered a goldmine of micro life hacks on a Reddit thread called “Life Pro Tips,” that you can put into action without too much effort.

They’re awesome rule-of-thumbs that will save you time, money, and make you more sociable.

Say yes to more invites

As an adult if new friends invite you to something say, “Yes.” — Vanguard Anon

Children get lots of opportunities to make new friends. As adults they don’t come around as often.

One of my good friends went through a brutal divorce last year. We tried to invite him to lots of social events. He rarely says yes and prefers to play computer games.

We keep inviting him anyway because occasionally he says yes. The last time he came with us he made a new friend. That new friend has since started going on bike rides with him that has got him out of the house. We’ve noticed he’s losing weight, looking fresher, and in a better mood since.

Don’t underestimate the power of new friends. Say yes to random invitations and you’ll meet new, interesting people.

Think of everything you do as progress

Sent someone a meme? You progressed your relationship. Drew a doodle? You progressed your art skill. Took a bath? You progressed your mental health.

Life is a bank and any time you do anything that brings you joy you’re earning.

— Mew Brew

The reason why many of us have phases in life where we feel like we’re making no progress is because we make things too big in our heads.

Of course if your goal is to make 7-figures in a year you probably won’t achieve it. But you can sell one book for $20, even if it’s to your mother. Or you can send one sales email, even if nobody reads it.

It’s important to tell yourself after every small action that you’re making progress towards a goal. That self-talk helps give you self-fulfilling motivation — a type of motivation that will compound enormously over a year or more.

The weekend is where your future is built

Use the weekend to build the life you want, instead of trying to escape the life you have — Bigger_ThanLife

When I worked a job I hated, the weekend was my escape.

I did anything I could to numb the pain. The problem is it got me nowhere. I’d be right back to hell at 9 am on Monday morning. That’s when I learned to build after hours. We’re talking micro hacks, though, so hear me out.

Do 15 minutes of a new side project every weekend. Do it for 21 days to make it a habit. Every weekend add another 15 minutes. Within a few months you’ll slowly be transitioning from the life you hate to a new life with loads more possibilities. Quick transformations don’t work.

Slow transformations that start out as 15 minutes feel effortless. Effortless turns into action. Action changes your future.

Take pictures every day with your phone

You may not like being in pictures or taking them, but you will hate that you have no photos of some time period when you’re older.

Take pictures even if it is out of your comfort zone occasionally, for your future self — Squaragus_Asparagus

I haven’t admitted this before so here goes. In 2011 I went from 60 KGs to over 100 KGs in weight, thanks to a personal trainer. I thought muscles would help me attract women. It did the opposite.

When I tell people this story the first thing they ask is “can you show me a photo?” I didn’t take a lot of photos back then as I was in a deep, dark depression and hated myself. The idea of taking photos of myself felt stupid.

Now I regret it.

During the lockdowns caused by the global health crisis, I decided to make a change. I took multiple photos (even ones with masks) to remind myself of one of the most difficult times in human history. Now I have photos to show my future post-apocalypse children.

Photos are memories. Take plenty. Keep them off Instagram.

Be awesome to non-drinkers

If you offer someone an alcoholic drink and they say no, immediately tell them what non-alcoholic drinks you have. With no judgment.

They don’t owe you any explanation of recovery, medical contraindications, or whether or not they just don’t feel like it that day. — Lemjne

I haven’t had an alcoholic drink for years.

Too many times alcohol has ruined my life.

So I stay away from it but it’s bloody hard. When I worked a regular job one of the hardest things was going to a social event and being asked “do you want beer or wine, mate?”

The truly awesome people would then follow up with “can I get you a soda or a sparkling mineral water.” The knob heads would keep asking why I didn’t drink. They’d accidentally embarrass me in front of an audience.

Explaining why you don’ drink is deeply personal.

I gave up due to a near-miss with cancer, my bad behavior around women when drunk, and the impulses to drink too much when life became unbearable. Explaining that in front of your boss or to a person on a first date with you is hard.

Quickly offer non-drinkers the non-alcoholic beverage options. They’ll love you for it and you’ll increase the chances of connecting with new people.

Ask this polite question in job interviews

From here on out, make “What was your company’s 2020 response?” a standard interview question. — PhasmaFelis

Many companies did a terrible job in 2020 after the global health crisis. They treated us like bugs they could crush with their army boots.

How employers handle people during the tough times says a lot about them. If you’re deciding on a new employer and discover they did mass layoffs in March 2020, run a million miles away from them.

Compassion is the new business trend.

Every company that doesn’t get it will be scratching their heads and saying “why is it so hard to hire people?” Screw them.

They deserve it for being evil to humans.

Use this to avoid the death spiral into a useless conversation about politics

Next time you are stuck in a conversation about politics, ask the person “what is your supported political party doing for you?” — Roboboy3000

Image Credit–Sara Tasker via Twitter (WARNING: image used for demonstration only and does not reflect my political beliefs)

Most political talk leads nowhere.

It turns into a character assassination based on emotions rather than facts. Our politicians are out of touch with reality. A large proportion of them are white males over 70. It’s no wonder we lack a diversity of thought. This will hopefully change, but for now, it’s a long road.

Vote when the time comes. Don’t get too caught up in it. Instead, work on yourself. No politician is going to save you from inflation, or bring down the cost of your bills, or help you get a job. That’s the harsh truth.

Pretend other drivers are your grandmother

When you don’t have all the facts, try to give people the most generous reason you can for their behavior.

Annoyingly slow driver? Maybe it’s a mom with a birthday cake in the back. This mindset will gradually make you less reactive, more compassionate and more forgiving of your own bad days.

— ContributionNarrow88

I used to be a road rage maniac. I’d ride up the asses of every car on the freeway and scream “get out of my way, pal!”

That’s what deep anxiety sounds like.

In recent years I’ve used this life hack to think of other drivers as my grandmother. When she used to drive me around I’d be patient, forgive her when she made wrong turns, and be more helpful.

Grandma died last year.

Her legacy lives on through the way I’ve decided to treat other drivers. All of the blowing up at drivers used to drain my energy. Now I’m just a Sunday driver in a lawn bowls outfit and candy pink visor hat, sharing the roads with my fellow grandmothers and grandfathers.

Takeaway: If you knew that annoying person had just left the hospital to farewell the love of their life after dying from cancer, would you be so cruel? Of course not. Try to think that way about everyone you meet.

Do the phone survey and unlock a hidden reward

If you’re asked to take a survey after a service rep/tech helps you out, take it and give them the best score possible— Stoncils

I spent a good part of my career working in call centers. I had to ask every caller to do a survey.

Many of them would say no or hang up. It broke my heart.

They didn’t know how important it was. I had a KPI on how many surveys I got done. And if they left me a positive comment at the end it would get read out in team meetings.

One customer left me such a good comment after the survey that it got shared with thousands of my colleagues at a town hall meeting by our General Manager. As a result of that feedback I met my future boss who got me out of the call center and into a job I loved.

Customer service reps could do with your help. It takes 30 seconds and can help ensure they don’t have to work in the same job forever. Completing a survey is the gift of an opportunity.

You unlock the hidden reward of knowing you made a customer service rep’s day. Try it.

This final life hack is from me…

Don’t write controversial words on social media

It can get you banned and the platform’s machine learning/algorithms are trained to look for them.

You could be smacked in the face by the nanny police for trying to innocently share your story. They won’t tell you either. They’ll either block your content or shadow-ban you.

Examples:

  • S*x
  • Coroni-rona
  • P*rn

Instead, just substitute the controversial word for one that has the same meaning and won’t trigger the nannies. Here’s an example: “fuggit.” (Hat tilt to Sean Kernan.) See, you know what I’m saying, don’t you? Nice.

Until Web 3.0 takes over this is what we have to deal with. No point complaining.


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Avoid These Six Mental Drainers to Live Life on Easy Mode

Live Life on Easy Mode

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A head full of energy isn’t a miracle from a higher power.

It’s the result of avoiding mental drainers. They’re those things that quietly sap your energy, and sometimes, your will to live. They’re the things that seem harmless but are actually bad for you.

Let’s go through a few. Then we will zap them dead together. Sound fair enough?

Hidden jealousy

A sign of wealth: not being jealous of others.

— Greg Isenberg

I’m an idiot. Legit.

I expected to be a moderately successful writer and have everybody hold my hand and sing hallelujah with me. Haha. Not even close.

As soon as you get a tiny bit of success there will be people who get angry. Why? They didn’t do the thing you did.

People will be more successful than you. Life isn’t a college football game where there are winners and losers. Everyone who is breathing is alive.

Alive = Winning

In case you think I’m immune, I’m not. One of my favorite writers publishes banger after banger. Occasionally I get jealous. When this happens I stop the mental drain by firing off an email to them to acknowledge their success.

Encouraging your idols is the antidote to jealously. Easy.

Complaining about social media platforms

News Break is evil, you say. And? Do they care? Nope.

There will always be a new user to spawn up on the platform you left. Money can always buy new users or creators if things get bad. Humans are good at giving second chances. I mean look at Zuckerberg. We keep trusting him to steal our data and sell it to the highest bidder, so he does.

The truth is none of us know how any social media algorithm works. There are some who claim they do. They’re modern-day fortune-tellers. Don’t bet your career on a fortune-teller. They might tell lies to get money.

Social media apps aren’t there to get a customer service award. Companies like Google don’t even have customer service. You can’t complain to google for a bad google search.

*Spanks google on the bum* “Bad google!”

Nope. Your feelings about their platform aren’t part of their strategy.

If you don’t like a tech platform then stop using it. Take the energy you were going to waste complaining, and find another platform to spend your time on.

A gorgeous brain full of unspoken ideas

I once got yelled at in an email. I broke a cardinal sin by making an online course. This person thought only they should have the right to create courses. Anybody else who does so is a criminal.

Dumb.

Ideas mean nothing without execution.

We all have great ideas, and most of them are similar. Share your ideas. Give your ideas away for free. Do a James Altucher and write ten ideas per day, then send them to people you admire. Use ideas as a magnet rather than keeping them all to yourself in the hope you can sell each one for $1 million.

Investors buy execution, not ideas. That’s how the world works. Don’t let the mental drainer of trying to lock your ideas up in a bank safe inside your head ruin your life.

Being fed up with your employer

If you’ve worked in corporate like I have, you’ll know that a lot of your colleagues will waste their day being fed up with their employer.

“Why don’t they pay me more?”

“How come I didn’t get a promotion?!”

“Why can’t they pay for me to fly to that conference in Vegas?”

Complaints that are spoken behind the closed doors of a meeting room are silly. They make you feel bad about your job. They make doing your work harder. All of it is pointless, especially when …

LinkedIn allows us to change jobs like we change underpants.

There’s zero friction to leave and work elsewhere. Cheat on your boss. Date another company for a day at a job interview. Sleep around with various different leaders to see if there’s one you’d like to marry, so you can divorce your old pain-in-the-ass boss who doesn’t understand you.

Jobs are everywhere. You’re good enough. Flirt with new opportunities in LinkedIn direct messages. You’ll see for yourself.

Opportunities are limitless. Once you know that you’ll stop giving a f*ck about what your employer did this month to piss you off for the 121st time.

Doomsday predictions

The world can be a messed up place. After the last 2 years you wouldn’t be entirely mad to predict a major political problem, a riot, a war, or even a financial disaster worse than the Great Recession of 2008.

I met a surgeon in 2010. He made close to a million dollars annually. We got chatting about real estate.

“Nah, I’m not buying anything until the market crashes.”

A friend of his told me he’d been saying that since 1992. Even if the markets did crash, the prices still wouldn’t return to where they were in 1992.

He hoped to profit off a doomsday prediction. Instead, he let his cash sit in a savings account to rot away, thanks to inflation and the devaluing of the US dollar. Every day there are commentators predicting the end of the world.

They miss one thing: the power of human ingenuity to solve problems.

No matter how bad the problem, humans find a way. It’s why I’m glad I was born human and not some other species, like a rainbow crab. No problem is likely to be the end of the world.

Save your optimism muscle. Assume humans will figure it out, and we probably will (according to history).

Expecting people to behave

We’re not great at compliance. Look at the face mask drama of the last few years. Many people saw the requirement to wear a mask as a violation of their human rights, instead of a way to protect their health.

I didn’t get angry.

Recently in my hometown we implemented coroni-rona certificates. You have to show one before you go into a shop or enter McDonald’s and stuff your face with a vegan Big Mac.

After two days businesses stopped checking. It’s exactly as I predicted. We don’t like being told what to do. So all I did was expect people wouldn’t comply and kept wearing my mask while socially distancing.

It’s a drainer to expect people to care about other people. Modern society has taught us to be selfish and only take care of our families.

A return to unselfishness will happen again — but for the time being we continue to live through the individualism plague. Accept it and move on. Energy restored!


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Life Hacks

Your Life Has an Algorithm. Program It to Work in Your Favor.

Tim Denning Advice

Photo by Slava Pluzhnov on Unsplash


Tech algorithms run your online life.

What if there’s an algorithm similar to the one that powers your TikTok newsfeed that runs your life? And what if you can program it to work in your favor? There are ways.

Aldous Huxley says, “The brain is a reducing valve of consciousness.” The mind acts as an algorithm that determines what shows up in your life’s newsfeed. If left to run on auto-pilot, you’ll quickly find yourself believing the world is going to end or falling for fake news.

There’s a reason some crazies don’t believe in the global health crisis.

Their mind’s algorithm has been tampered with by life hackers, posing as helpful human beings, that are selfishly seeking to manipulate people for personal gain. Program your life’s algorithm to work in your favor like this.

“Where focus goes energy flows”

I find that anxiety, worry, and depression find me when I let random content enter my life. No matter how mentally tough you are, if you consume enough “America is dying” garbage you’ll start to believe it.

Doom is a weapon. Doom is how people can gain mass attention that earns them money. I’ll tell you the shortcut to fame and riches. You can deploy this strategy right now.

Pick any social media app and simply repeat the headlines from CNN. It’s one of the most popular business models in history and it’s guaranteed to work, because it taps into the negativity hard-coded into our minds by human evolution. You’ll tap into millions of people by being the next CNN, and accidentally ‘do evil.’

When doom runs your life’s algorithm you see the negative in everything. Someone won a contest? Must be a fraud. A new social media platform? They’ll fail. A friend quit their job? They’ll be begging for their job back. New car? Consumerism kills society. Bought a house? How dare they — the economy is going to sh*t, they’re screwed.

See what happens? There’s zero optimism left. Optimism is the foundation of creation. And creation is how we fix the things doomsayers talk about.

Any dumbo can repeat problems and make us believe we won’t solve them.

A true genius goes beyond problems and imagines a future in which solutions no one saw coming get invented. When you meet the next energy vampire that sucks the oxygen out of the room with their negativity, remember why. It’s because their life’s algorithm is programmed by daily overexposure to negativity.

Build a Zoom bookshelf

My business partner has a bookshelf behind him whenever we do a Zoom call. Multiple times we’ll be talking about a topic and he’ll swivel around and grab a book that demonstrates his point.

His bookshelf programs his life’s algorithm. In the room of his house where he does all his work, there are books everywhere that he can trip over (literally) when he’s in need of inspiration or a new idea.

A good book that improves your life isn’t supposed to be read once. No. A good book should be read multiple times over a lifetime. Why? A book reads differently each time, depending on what’s happening in your life.

I remember reading “Think And Grow Rich” right after a successful business venture, and then again right after a bad breakup. It was like reading two different books.

Books you trip over help to program your life’s algorithm.

Live in a social media algorithm bubble

Often friends will message me and say, “did you see what such and such person wrote on Twitter?” I’ll have no idea what they’re talking about and this is deliberate.

A social media algorithm programs your life’s algorithm.

I mute and unfollow bullsh*t. Life is hard enough. I don’t have time for undisciplined thinking that makes my world worse. You can do the same. Notice what comes into your email inbox and social media feeds. Is it helping you or taking advantage of you?

Follow people you disagree with

Wait, what? Hear me out. There are people who I strongly disagree with but are trying to improve society. Their thoughts program my mind with alternate possibilities. They seek to make me think rather than worship their point of view. I don’t agree with some of them, for example, when it comes to Bitcoin.

But on other topics I do. I try to have these folk sprinkled into my life’s algorithm, so I don’t become a victim of my own thoughts. A wild Mark Mason screaming at you once in a while is good for disrupting thought patterns.

Program thoughtful contrarians into your life’s algorithm.

Add hard things to your algorithm

My food algorithm is hyper-adjusted to prevent caloric disasters. I know that if there’s chocolate or sugary drinks around I’ll consume them. So, I don’t allow them into my pantry. Doesn’t mean they’re gone for good. I can still access junk food but I’ve made it much harder to get to.

I’m also prone to laziness. Some days I don’t move my body. I learned an old trick. Place your favorite gym outfit next to your bed. As soon as you wake up simply put in on. Then go and do your version of movement.

Repeat this process for 21 days and you have a habit. This works because the clothes next to your bed trigger a ritual. Once our life’s algorithm is used to a ritual it does it automatically.

Automatic thinking is powerful. It helps you avoid resistance and giving in to any excuses you try to come up with.

I try to program in hard things that make me fearful. For example, I’ll book myself to go to Toastmasters, where I know there’s a high chance I’ll have to give a speech. Just the proximity is enough for my life’s algorithm to do the rest of the work and defeat my fear.

Program the “magnet of opportunity” into your algorithm

Your life is a magnet. You attract people and things by what you put out.

Many opportunities I discover come from intentional serendipity. Here’s a strategy you can steal. Send one message per day with no agenda. I sent one today to the first person I ever interviewed as a writer.

I told him that my entire career started with the piece I wrote about his startup, that’s now a household name in America. The message spoke to how glad I was that his interview broke my writing virginity. And how it’s amazing the way life comes full circle.

What came back was an awesome reply and a chance to reconnect. Now we’re off talking about a new opportunity. You can go even further with this strategy and do a James Altucher. Add ten ideas at the bottom that the recipient might find helpful.

Messages with no hidden agenda program your life’s algorithm for future opportunities you’ll never see coming. Sprinkle in a little humility and a touch of kindness, and you’ve got a superpower.

Why all of this matters to you

Your life’s algorithm is controlled by your thoughts. Your thoughts are programmed by your inputs. The tiny thoughts you have turn into decisions that cut off other possibilities. Decisions then become actions. Actions shape your focus. And focus programs your life’s algorithm to create your future.

Rewire your life’s algorithm to work in your favor, by being intentional about what you subconsciously let program you. Doom causes faulty programming. Optimism hardcodes your brain for unlimited potential.


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