Category : Motivation


Writing Motivation for Writers Who Feel like They’ve Fallen from Grace or Lost Their Way

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The biggest challenge as a writer is to keep writing.

I should know. I’ve been writing for six years straight. I publish an average of ten full-length blog posts a week, plus around fourteen social media posts a week. Am I special? No. Gifted? No. Hardworking? Sometimes. This topic is close to my heart. Many of my close writer friends are burning out. They’re giving up. Writing less. Blaming the platform they choose to write on.

Writing is hard. It’s not easy to be a writer despite what the laptop lifestyle bloggers tell you. I’m here to tell you that you’re doing just fine.

My big secret: I lose my motivation to write all the time. All writers do, so you’re not alone. Here’s how to keep writing and get inspired again.

Transform your writing process entirely

A formulaic writing process can become boring — for both you and the reader. If you want to reinvent yourself as a writer then create a new writing process. Create multiple writing processes. Here are a few writing processes you can use:

  • Use a tweet as an idea for a story.
  • Write the ending first.
  • Write the headline, skip the intro, and go straight into your subheadings/main points.
  • Write with zero formatting.
  • Write with lots of images in your story.
  • Start with an image, not a headline. Let the image guide you to write the story instead of the headline.
  • Phone a writer friend and tell them to give you three topics.

Your writing process is what you can change to regain motivation again. You don’t need to quit writing. You just need to get out of your comfortable writing zone.

Upset the traditional gatekeepers of the writing world

The writing industry is full of a lot of old school people living in pre-internet times.

These folks have strange ideas about how content should look, or what rules a headline must follow, or what is good content and what is bad content. The best motivation for writing again is to defy these perfect literary critics and their fancy six-figure university degrees.

I’m worse than a high school drop out. No university would ever let me in because I would lack the discipline to ever do the homework like the good little church boy my grandma hoped I’d be. I’ve failed at seven separate startups. I’ve survived a near-miss with cancer.

There are no rules when it comes to writing on the internet. Grammar and spelling rules are made to be broken by bloggers trying to be the next Mark Mason with an F-Word in their book title. Maybe you feel like you’ve fallen from grace as a writer because you’re letting the critics and old school folks of the writing world get to you.

Here’s a huge lesson I learned: the people who keep trying to tell you how to write are mostly failed writers.

Failed writers, who will never write anything remarkable, can only live with themselves by making other writers’ lives hell. It’s not you. It’s them. Write what you want. Break the rules. Don’t water down your writing to pleasure a critic who will never respect you no matter what you do.

Dare to write a listicle

People say listicles are cheap. I love listicles and so do readers. Listicles are an easy way to organize and share thoughts. Commit a crime against humanity and write a listicle. I double dare you to!

Change where you write

Writing platforms unintentionally make you write differently. The disciplined restraint of Twitter with its 280 character limit is beautiful. The dryness of a career based writing platform like LinkedIn will force you to be creative beyond desk-bound office work.

The freedom of your own WordPress blog will make you say things you never thought you’d say because the chance of someone you know reading it is highly unlikely.

When you get bored with writing, start writing on a different platform.

Repurpose your content

Content your write on one platform can be used on another. Each writing platform has its nuances. I take full-length blog posts and turn them into tweet threads. You can too. Don’t be afraid to steal from yourself.

Rewrite your old content

What you wrote a year ago won’t come out the same. I wrote about waking up at 4 AM every day a few years ago. I look back and read that story now and laugh. I was such an immature asshole. If you’re lacking motivation, write a new version of an old story. Let this month’s thinking be added on to a story from a year or more ago.

Each phase of your life causes you to write about a topic differently. My friends, Anthony Moore and Danny Forrest, both write differently now that they’re fathers. What I write as a committed man in a long-term relationship — compared to the reckless, out of control single guy who was drunk every night — is far different. If I tried waking up at 4 AM nowadays my girlfriend would slap me back to sleep again.

Write your best stories again. Because you’ll never write the same story the same way again.

Stop writing about yourself and write about someone else

Writer, Shannon Ashley, shared this tip. I love it. If you always write about yourself then try writing about someone else.

Take a famous story from history and rewrite it with modern-day relevance and solid takeaways. Or interview somebody over Zoom and collect their top pieces of advice. Or take video/audio and convert it into a written story that has helpful tips for a reader.

Writing about yourself can be exhausting. Give yourself a break from writing about yourself.

Switch the headline and the subtitle — Magic!

Simple is spectacular. If you want to change up your headlines then switch your headline and subtitle. Or take the last sentence of your story and make it your headline. You can even take a popular highlight from an old story and make it the headline of a new story. Social proof makes your writing better.

Write even when you don’t feel like it

Cheat: count the emails you reply to as writing.

Nobody wakes up every day feeling like they want to write. The hack I use is just to start writing something, even if it’s boring. Once you start writing you find your flow and get back in the game. *Not* writing is when you lose motivation.

Get new writer friends

If you want to lose writing motivation quickly then drown yourself in a cesspool of Facebook writing groups that tell you you’re an idiot and need to follow trends and blame social media platforms for your flaws.

Writers are quick to tell you what you can’t be. They rarely tell you what you can be. I believe you can do whatever you want with your writing. You can build a 7-figure business from writing like Benjamin Hardy did, all by yourself, if you want to.

Trade in your current writer friends if they are bringing you down. Or leave writing groups for a while and be alone with your laptop and your thoughts.

The writers you admire do it tough too

I’m surrounded by writers you might think are effortlessly awesome. Have you seen Niklas Goke? The guy can’t write a bad story if he tried. Here’s the secret about the writers you admire: they’re doing it tough.

They have a lot more bad days than you think. Other writers think I’m some sort of one-off freak of nature. They think I never have a bad writing day. I do all the time. So do the writers you look up to. Let me butcher a famous Ian Maclaren quote (sorry old mate Ian) and rewrite it:

Remember that every writer you read is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

Share the story you’re scared to write about

If you feel unmotivated as a writer then you can go to the next level of writing. You reach the next level of your writing by writing the story you’ve been too scared to share. I have many stories like this: my short run-in with religion, my secret bitcoin habit that could have me banned from traditional finance, and the failed relationships I destroyed.

Write what scares the shit out of you. That’s how you level-up.

Give yourself a break — you’re doing just fine

Don’t worry if your views are down. Don’t worry if the money you earn from writing has halved. Don’t worry if your number of new followers has dropped off. Don’t worry if your email list is shrinking faster than the size of a Big Mac.

Take a chill pill. You’re doing fine as a writer. Putting thoughts into words and sharing them online isn’t easy. It takes courage to do what you do.

Your self-worth is measured by the number of viral articles you write. Your bank balance from writing doesn’t make you better than another writer. All that separates you from another writer is your willingness to share the story — the whole story — in all its glory.

No writer wakes up with enormous writing motivation every day and a folder full of viral headlines ready to make them richer than Bill Gates. Writing is hard. That’s the fun part. The way you win the writing war is to remember this:

You’re writing against yourself.

Just beat your writing by 0.1% each day by changing things up.

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You Can Attract Luck Simply by Telling People What You Are Working On

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“You make your own luck” — my dad.

This quote has stuck with me for my entire life. My dad used to say it to me as a six year old chocolate-milk-loving brat with a set of Ninja Turtle nunchucks.

People love to know what you’re working on. They also love if you ask them the same question. It’s the ultimate ice-breaker for a conversation, in one powerful sentence.

Luck is when your goals happen without you having to forcefully hustle your way into an overworking dark corner of damaged fantasies.

Luck is just quiet hard work, after hours, in disguise.

I often tell people what I am working on using my email list. Surprisingly, as soon as I send out the email, people start replying back. Many of them have thoughts, ideas and contacts to help me with whatever the project is.

You can do the same. Telling people what you’re working on isn’t bragging either. It’s simply giving them an update on your latest project. As they ask questions, you answer them. If they have a way to help your work then they’re sure to let you know. You don’t have to jam asks for help down their throat.

“What Do I Want to Be Working On?”

This question is incredibly effective. Maybe you’re not working on the thing you want to be working on yet. This question can help you.

You can tell people you talk to what you’d like to be working on. You can describe to them your thoughts, and most importantly, what actions you’re already taking to get there. A human in action is a person someone wants to help get where they’re going. A human sitting idle waiting for luck, or seeking sympathy, tends to go nowhere for a while.

Earlier this year I wanted to be working on an academy of online courses. I’d tried working on this goal before, and failed.

I told a fellow writer what I’d ‘like’ to be working on. I told them what I had tried and described the last two failed attempts.

They suggested I chat with a hipster shirt wearing guy with a beard named Todd. They said “he’s the missing piece to your puzzle.” The stupid thing was I had spoken to Todd before. We clicked as friends, but not as project buddies. I’d missed his brilliance because I got wrapped up in publishing books on Amazon and forgot about the person I was talking to.

By telling my writer friend about what I was working on, as luck would have it, I met Todd (again). I started working with Todd and never looked back. I discovered the power of combining completely separate skills and gluing them together with mutual respect.

Whisper to another person what you’d like to be working on.

You Can Attract Luck by Finding out People’s Problems

I’ve had the goal of creating a LinkedIn course for years. I’m a lazy bastard and still haven’t done it.

Instead of waiting to “feel like it,” I decided to go another route. I went down the path of looking for people’s problems.

First, I surveyed my email list to find out what problems they had with LinkedIn. Then I started talking to LinkedIn content creators to see what problems they had. Then I looked at people who were already solving people’s LinkedIn problems with an educational product.

Before I knew it, I had a solid list of problems people clearly wanted solved. Now I’m building a LinkedIn course around those problems (see what I did there).

Solving research-backed problems can make you appear lucky.

There Are 5 Responses You’ll Get When You Tell People What You’re Working On

  • “I need that.” Potential customer or audience member for the problem you’re solving.
  • “How can I help?”Potential team member to help you with your work.
  • “I’m working on something similar.” Potential partner, affiliate, or person to share your journey with as you build different things together.
  • “That’s nice,” then the subject changes. This person isn’t interested in what you’re working on. Not everybody will be and that’s okay.
  • “I know someone like that.” A referral to someone is how you find the people you need to achieve a goal.


Start telling people what you’re working on. Don’t brag about it, just tell them the story of your work.

“I’m doing this.”

“I’m thinking about it this way.”

“I’m looking for…”

Don’t hoard your work. Tell people what you’re working on so they can help you. And perhaps even change your thinking about your work.

Progress on a goal rarely happens in isolation. Use the people around you to attract luck to your work.

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There Is a Powerful Driving Force Inside Every Human Being That, Once Unleashed, Can Make Any Vision, Dream, or Desire a Reality

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Unlocking your driving force is life-changing.

It’s a force that becomes a second wind, or a runner’s high, or an additional store of energy you can draw down on. Every single one of us has this inside of us. For most of us, it sits idle for years, waiting to explode out of you.

My driving force was unlocked in 2013. A tall giant named Tony Robbins unlocked it after I devoured his books, tapes and teachings in a desperate attempt to change my life and heal from an undiagnosed mental illness. The title of this story was something Tony said which got me thinking back then.

It doesn’t matter who unlocks your driving force. All that matters is you unlock it, finally — as soon as possible. Because when you do, your entire life changes. You’ll never be the same again.

What is a driving force?

It’s the little voice inside your head that tells you not to give up so easily. It’s the freakish ability to avoid sleeping in because you have bigger things to do. It’s the protector of your goals. It’s the crusher of excuses. It’s the assertiveness to ask for something a second time when you know you should.

It’s the ability to be unreasonable enough to make things happen, that perhaps shouldn’t happen. It’s the ability to take all your disadvantages, shortcomings, critics and society’s biases against you and where you’re from, and use them to your advantage with a smile on your face.

A driving force controls how you think and what you do, unconsciously.

Passion secretly hides in every single one of us

Another way of saying “your driving force” is passion. Yes, it’s cliche because the best concepts you haven’t implemented often are.

Passion is effortless.

Passion is automation for your decisions. Passion is a reason to do something. Passion is what you can use to make your vision, dream, or desire a reality. You can have a goal, but without passion you won’t care enough to make it happen. Why?

There will be setbacks, hidden problems, critics and lots of bumps along the way. Each of these realities will piss you off and make you say “fuck it, I’m out.” Passion is a reason to try again or keep going. You can blame everything on passion and then move forward. Without passion, your brain is right — this situation is screwed and the world is against you and time is running out.

Blame your life on passion to keep going.

Barriers to unlocking your driving force

Obviously, there are things getting in the way of you unlocking your driving force. Let’s identify a few.

Fear of critics blocks it.

Do me a favor. Imagine this.

Wake up. Write something from the heart on social media. Take a risk. Unlock some level of vulnerability. Hit publish. Come back the next day. Read the comments on your social media post.

What you’ll see is at least one critic who thinks you’re an idiot. They won’t be afraid to throw virtual mud at you or make you feel stupid. They will link to research that makes your point of view seem stupid (research from a google search that proves someone wrong is easy to find).

If you’re really unlucky, they’ll invite their mates along. They’ll metaphorically say “look how stupid this newb is” without saying anything bad. Their friends will agree because there’s nothing on TV that night.

If you’re even more unlucky, those same critics will publish a beautifully crafted piece of content all about you, without naming you, but making it obvious they’re talking about you. They are the satire kings and queens of the internet and you’re their little pawn.

You’ll feel terrible afterwards. The feeling will last a week, maybe more.

Next time you go to work on your goal you’ll be reminded of this moment. Those critics will remind you of how weak you can be with a few comments.

Time stops it

Without any time, you’ll be too distracted to unlock your driving force. There will always be another entry on your calendar. Busy will be your excuse and you won’t even realize it.

Without time, the deep thinking required to unlock what your driving force is and work out where it comes from will remain out of reach.

Friends and family stop it

The power of your driving force is so great that other people won’t want you to find it. Why? Well, they haven’t found theirs, so how dare you have yours.

They’ll load you up with tasks. They’ll want you to live in mediocrity and spend your days in a constant state of social media outrage fuelled by politics, elections, and content that says “life is unfair” without actually saying it.

The ones you love the most can be the biggest blockers of your driving force.

You think your life is long

You think you have time. As I learned in 2015 during a near-miss with cancer, you don’t. Your life isn’t that long.

The time is now for anything you want to do. Delaying what gives you meaning is a guaranteed regret you’ll have on your deathbed. Death hurts enough, without adding regrets to your final day on this planet.

You stop it

The biggest problem, as always, is you. You stop yourself from finding and using your driving force. You do this through the lies you tell yourself.

The easiest person to cheat is yourself.

Say something in your head and it becomes a fact, instantly. You can come up with endless excuses about why you can’t have what you want.

Here’s How to Discover Your Driving Force

  • Read books about people who have discovered theirs. Look for patterns and write them down so you don’t forget them.
  • Ask people who know you well what you’re obsessed with.
  • Work on yourself through reflection, meditation, writing your thoughts down, and gaining feedback.
  • What has given you tingles down your spine? What produces flow states? What feels effortless to talk about?
  • How can you help people? The ways you can help people hold many of the hidden secrets to purpose, fulfillment, joy and meaning.
  • What would you protest for? If someone tried to stop me writing I’d sit outside parliament like Greta Thunberg did and protest. What makes you feel like doing the same?
  • Let death motivate you.
  • Do this exercise: Put yourself in radically different situations. In 2013, I overcame my fear of flying to attend an event that seemed crazy. I met people who were truly bizarre. I had to hug strangers. I had to write down what was going on in my head. When I returned home I started reaching out to people who inspired me. Many of them never responded. One guy did. He was into self improvement. He offered to show me how he found his driving force, although he didn’t call it that. I saw how much he was lit up by his life. I dreamt of having that same glow. I dreamt of caring about something other than myself. It didn’t happen right away. It took many ridiculous situations to unleash the chains that shackled my potential.
  • You can live a lit up life when you expose yourself to new situations.

Your Life Will Never Be the Same Again

I can’t promise you a Ferrari. But I can tell you that your life will never be the same when you find your driving force.

Writing, public speaking, and using social media is how I found mine. I’ll die for it. The same opportunity exists for you.

A vision, dream, or desire isn’t enough.

You need a driving force to help you work away at it and overcome the inevitable setbacks. A goal without a driving force lacks passion and is vulnerable to abandonment or self-destruction.

You have a powerful driving force inside of you — experiment to find out what unlocks it for you.

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You’ve Got to Stop Delaying Your Goals – It’s Holding You Back

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An email from a fellow writer turned me into a fiery dragon. Their goal was to start writing again. It’s the thing they love more than anything in the world.

“I am thinking that I would love to write in mid-December during our Christmas holidays because I have more time then to really focus on it. But we’ll see…” (slightly edited). I don’t understand this way of thinking.

You’re never going to have time to work on your goals.

What’s the point of living a fantasy life and thinking the holidays will save you? The time for your goals, that light you up, is NOW.

Delaying your goals leaves you feeling empty.

I meet people all the time who feel empty or unfulfilled and they can’t explain it. It drives them nuts. This empty feeling in my life occurred because I knew there was something outside of my 9–5 job that I wanted to do and I kept delaying it. It’s not that I didn’t know what the activity was. It’s that I put my goals on hold to prioritize someone else’s.

You feel empty inside when you don’t work on your most important goal. You have the power to change it.

Let your schedule become extremely uncomfortable.

This one may not be pleasant to read. It’s the truth. I worked on my writing goal during extreme discomfort. I tried to work a job and battle mental illness, which took the majority of my time. There wasn’t any time left to write. But I didn’t wait for that twice a year fantasy of holidays to save me.

Instead, I made my schedule uncomfortable. Rather than a gorgeous schedule that was open and flexible, my Outlook Calendar was a rainbow mess of colors. There weren’t any gaps. I pushed my schedule to the limit to find the extra time to write.

You can be harsh towards your schedule if you want to find the time to work on your goal. Discomfort works with your calendar too.

The passion spreads like a virus into all other areas of your life.

By not delaying my main goal, the passion writing gave me bled into every other area of my life. That’s the power of your most important goal. Achieving your goal feels much better than thinking about your goal and feeling guilty.

The time to take action on your goals is when you decide what they are.

Let me give you a crystal clear example. A few years back I wanted to get fit. My body was becoming an anorexic, discombobulated mess. Muscle was being replaced by skin and bones.

I decided I was going to join a gym at 10 PM at night. The problem was the gym wasn’t open to go down and join. Using the “today mindset” I went on every local gym’s website and left my name, email address, and phone number. The next day the gym vultures transcended on my weak body. They attacked me from every angle. There were emails, phone calls and SMSes, all forcing me to take action and respond. The gym staff were relentless.

As a result, I had leverage on myself. I couldn’t delay the goal or pretend I’d forgotten or became busy by life. Within a few hours of waking up I had a gym membership and had done my first workout.

“Never leave the site of a goal without first taking some form of positive action towards its attainment.

Right now, take a moment to define the first steps you must take to achieve some goal. What can you do today to move forward?” — Tony Robbins

How to do it: Put action steps into your calendar, or email yourself the moment you think of them.

Crises will always occur.

You work around a crisis. You don’t stop and daydream during a crisis.

I have written through every major crisis of my life. If your goal is important enough to you, you will keep going despite what’s going on around you. What worked for me was dialing things back a little when chaos entered my life — not completely going into hibernation and waiting for the storm to pass.

When one crisis ends, another one is ready and waiting for you.

If you wait for a calm moment in your life to work on your goals, you’ll be unlikely to ever work on what matters most to you.

Fall in love with today, not the future.

You could be dead. That’s the harsh truth. At any moment your life could be taken away and you could prematurely exit this world.

There isn’t time to fantasize about the perfect environment, conditions, and people to enter your life so you can achieve your goals. It makes me sick to watch people waste away their entire life, delaying the simple habit of doing something they love doing.

When you prioritize your goals, you find your potential. When you find your potential you will realize that the distractions that take up all your free time can eventually be discarded. How?

Working on your goals allows you to eventually make a living from your goals.

This was the big realization for me. A goal is just a hidden way for you to earn a living that you haven’t figured out how to monetize yet.

Any goal can be turned into content. Content can be one way you can earn a living that will help you find many other ways to charge money for your skills associated with your goal.


Listen carefully when you say the following:

  • I will do it ‘one day.’
  • I don’t have time to work on…
  • I will do it in the holidays.
  • I am too busy with my day job.
  • I have no free time.

These phrases are excuses. They are the silent killers of your goals.

When you work on your goals you create meaning and fulfillment in your life. The best time to do the thing you love is right now. I am begging you to stop delaying your goals.

Right now, go take one action towards your biggest goal. Notice how you feel. Bottle the feeling up and repeat the process. The time for your goals is now. The time to utilize your potential is now.

Instant gratification beats delayed gratification that will never happen, because you’ll be too busy.

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Say Nothing. Do Nothing. Be Nothing.

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I had no dreams once too. I was afraid to speak up. I chose to be oppressed. Comfort was the only option.

I hate to see people live small. What is small? Not doing work you enjoy. Not falling in love with your version of art. Not living with tremendous passion. Not having the energy to wake up sleeping giants.

Telling yourself lies is not the answer.

While sitting in the sun by the window of my student apartment today, these words entered my brain: Say nothing. Do Nothing. Be Nothing.

Say nothing.

Be quiet. Don’t wake anybody. Do what you’re told. Let your dreams rot. Don’t speak out of turn. Don’t talk about the subjects that matter to you. Let the company you work for censor your voice. Let your fear of being judged block you from saying something… anything.

Talk quietly to yourself so no one can hear. Don’t dare believe your thoughts have value.

Do nothing.

Put your brain into a Netflix coma.

Numb your emotions with food. Don’t take that one tiny action. Forget about where tiny decisions might lead. When someone says you can’t do something, believe them. Pin your dreams on the wall and tell yourself, “maybe later.”

Be succumbed by meaningless BS you don’t care about. Chase the money dreams to hell. Save up for that 4WD you know deep down you don’t need. Mow your lawn so your neighbor thinks you got your shit together.

Get home from work. Do more of nothing than you did at work. Be the perfect little example of inaction. Make action your distant cousin; tell them to bugger off when you feel tired. Don’t you dare do what is hard. Do nothing.

Tell people you are going to do stuff and then never do it like everybody else. Your word doesn’t mean anything. Promise the world everything and deliver nothing, by doing nothing.

Be nothing.

If you say nothing and do nothing then you will be nothing because that’s what you asked for. People who do something, who become somebody you’d hope to be, don’t do nothing and say nothing. These somebodies have a two-step action plan that goes like this:

Step 1: Say something.
Step 2: Do something

Result: Become somebody.

How to Become Somebody You’ll Look Back and Be Proud Of.

Do the tiny things first. The things you use to dismiss as insignificant.

Go for a walk and clear your thoughts. Publish that silly little social media post you don’t think anybody will read. Ask that guy/girl out that makes you feel like you’re going to poop your pants and stink out the office.

Grandiose is overrated. Grandiose takes too much effort; you need too much momentum to ever get started, so you probably won’t. Writing a book is one such pursuit. Starting a business is another. They are such monumental feats, that very few people do them.

I’m giving you permission to start small.

Write the blog post, not the book.
Ask one girl out rather than join a dating app with thousands of rejections.
Work 4 days a week instead of quit your job and start a business.
Make $20 passive income first instead of $100,000 in your first month.
Have 10 fans instead of 24,000,000.

You become somebody you’ll be proud of when you make life easier on yourself. You have to speak up for what you want, though. You’ve got to learn to become unreasonable enough to ask total strangers for favors, intros, free stuff, or opportunities.

The world won’t give you what you want unless you ask for it — and follow up.

Asking once gets you nowhere.

You’ll be proud of yourself when you take action. When you take action when you don’t feel like it. When you design your life around a process that is supercharged by the power of flow states. A beginner process will get you further than a plan that takes your whole life to write (and never complete).

Toss away your plans. Speak up for yourself. Let your voice say what it wants to say, regardless of whether you offend those who probably need to be offended more often. Let your beliefs shine bright. Stand for something.

You don’t need to settle for second best by saying nothing and doing nothing out of fear or frustration. To be nothing is disappointing, especially when you have unlimited potential to play with.

You can become somebody when you decide with a tiny action. An action so small that nobody notices it except you.

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My Message to Those Who Fall down Due to These Unforgettable Times

My Message to Those Who Fall down Due to These Unforgettable Times

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There is no other moment in history like the one we’re living through. There is a health crisis with no cure. And a financial virus ready to wreak havoc on victims who didn’t see these tough times coming.

There will be devastation. There will be beauty, too — that’s what you never want to forget.

Many of us will fall from glory. You might lose your job. You might lose your business. You might lose your home. You might develop an illness of the mind. You might lose a lot of money. Or you might meet someone who endures one of these unforgettable events and have it affect your life. All of these events have happened to me during my life. It has taught me so much.

This is my message to you if you fall.

You are not a failure. If you use that label to describe yourself then it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Nobody saw this crisis coming. If we went back in time and pretended 2020 didn’t happen, and I told you this would be your future, you’d spit on my face and tell me “you’re dreaming, mate.”

These unforgettable times are real. If the moment takes you off your feet and causes you to fall down, you will get back up. Failure only happens when you decide not to get back up. And you can always get back up again because you’re smart.

Here’s the thing: it’s okay to stay down.

Stay on the floor until you’re ready to get back up again. Enjoy the moment you fall. Document how you think, feel and act. These are the moments you’ll want to recall when this is all over. Because those words will form part of your comeback story.

We all fall down.

Falling down doesn’t make you a failure; it makes you human and susceptible to outside forces created by natural events.

This moment in history is a Black Swan Event. We describe these times with a stunning animal like a swan to accidentally demonstrate the beauty of chaos.

This is the time to level-up. You played computer games before, right? What happens when you lose or are defeated? You play again until you master the game. And eventually you do reach mastery.

These crazy times are no different. You can level-up when you fall. There are habits that a Zen Warrior like you can use to get off the floor. You’ve heard of them before: reading, writing, thinking, inspiring others, meditating, walking around your neighborhood, learning a new skill.

Archie Williams was incarcerated for 37 years for a crime he didn’t commit. He was eventually found “not guilty.” As soon as he got out of jail he performed the music he’d practiced in jail in front of thousands of people for all of those years.

The video was shared on Youtube and went viral. The feeling of rebirth made those 37 years in jail have meaning. Those years in jail were worth it.

You can fall down. The place you call prison can be the same rockbottom place you rebuild your life from.

You did your best. It’s not like you didn’t try. Okay, so you have less money and your home is under threat. You still got air in your lungs and people who love you. And don’t you dare tell me that nobody loves you. There is always one person that loves you, even if it’s a stranger who has never told you.

To believe you are loved is to believe in hope.

Hope is a powerful drug in these unforgettable times. Hope can make you believe a cure is on its way and the world will recover. Hope can make you believe we will travel through space and perhaps inhabit other planets one day. Hope is the stuff of dreams.

Hope is the stuff of basic survival too.

The comeback is sweeter. I’d be nothing without broken dreams and falling flat on my face. When mental illness took the air out of my lungs and made me feel like I was choking on life, thinking of the comeback helped.

The image I used to have was odd. I could see myself standing over my bloody body that was lying on the ground due to a severe fall caused by the mind. I could see myself holding out my hand to the man on the ground. This is what comebacks can look like; you can imagine your future self giving a hand to your present self.

It’s on the comeback trail that you learn all the hard lessons you were not open to learning during the good times. The good times can make us delusional. The good times can force you to prioritize dumb stuff: work, money, Lambos, successful people who act like assholes, etc.

The comeback teaches you what is real, and what is fake. Most of what you see during the good times is fake. You see fake people who pretend to be happy and achieve all their goals. The reality, behind the scenes, is never like the fantasy you see on social media.

You can literally come back from anything. When you do, your life changes and you discover something special: you can help people who suffered from the same downfall. In the process of helping others who fall, you might just change your life. Or discover a meaning for your life.

Do This If You Have Fallen Down

Help a human who has fallen down, just like you.

Show the world what you’re capable of. Show the world your soul. Show strangers your heart. Don’t let these unforgettable times in human history break you. Let the unforgettable times make you.

You can be anything you want after you fall.

  • Take each day at a time.
  • Prioritize stress-relief activities like naps, movies, and phone calls.
  • Switch off the news. You’ve got enough bad news in your life.
  • See your future self having survived these tough times.
  • Find a way to teleport out of your mind and into the mind of a person who needs even more help than you. In someone else’s suffering you will find the keys to unlock your own problem.

The world is pivoting like a startup. Old paradigms are being destroyed. Those who want the world to stay the same are being told to sit down and shut up — by a gosh damn virus.

There is light after darkness.

Stay sane. Be patient. Document these unforgettable times. Save yourself; save others. Be generous to people doing it tough because you could be them.

You may fall down but you will definitely rise bigger and brighter after the unforgettable storm passes.

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